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Moving On From Bad Incidents
What do we do when they happen?
We have all been there, haven’t we?
There is a social setting, and we are behaving all right. We are using all our knowledge and wisdom to ensure not a wrong word is uttered, not a wrong deed done. Patient. Calm. Composed. Saying the right things. Acting the right way. All good!
And then it happens:
Suddenly something triggers. All of a sudden something provokes. All of a sudden something happens.
An accident OR
We lose our patience, calmness and composure.
And then we explode!
And then we either say such a thing or do such a deed we are not supposed to say/do. We behave in such a manner in that brief impulsive moment that we become someone else. Something else.
It is done: a bad incident has occurred!
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After a short while, when we find ourselves alone or in a favorable environment, we begin asking the question: Why did I do it? How did it happen?!
In that immediate heat, we cannot admit that we have wronged and done something we shouldn’t have done. And so we begin justifying to ourselves.
